Pretty in Pink (Guy Version)

Why has it always been that little boys wear blue and little girls wear pink, and why is it alright for women to wear the color blue but it’s socially unacceptable for men to wear the color pink?

 Haven’t you always heard it’s good to be your own person, don’t form to the rules of society? Well, if you haven’t you have now! Pink is no more a girl color than blue is a boy color.

Did you know that until the 1950’s the color pink was indeed considered a boy color? It was considered a shade of red which was associated with war a gore, and that the color blue was considered a girl color because it was associated with the Virgin Mary?

So I think that it’s our society that has it backwards…don’t you?

*For more information refer to “Real Men Wear Pink” *

If those facts still didn’t convince then hopefully Gracie Opulanza’s article can do just that!

“Why on earth would I wear the color pink” you might ask, well, men you may not know this but seeing the color on a male actually makes him a little more attractive. It shows that he is confident with who he is (the key word there being confident) and again, as I stated in my previous post Looking great from tfhe underneath out confidence is the key to looking (and feeling) great.

If wearing pink is a little much but you want to work your way up then try accenting your outfit with a splash of the color. The next time you’re shopping pick up a pastel pink tie or handkerchief. Nobody said you had to wear a full pink suit haha. Once you’re comfortable you can work your way up to a pink\burgundy (some shade of the color) shirt or shoes. Trust me, once you’re in the color you’ll look and feel even more confident than before.



Looking great from the underneath out

So I thought I would do a segment on men’s clothing this week since males need confidence too! Confidence through clothing with men isn’t that much different than women’s fashion.


Men…you don’t think that your confidence is affected by your clothing…That kind of stuff only holds true for women, then why do you think you seem more attractive to the women when you’re wearing a shirt that shows off your muscles as opposed to when you’re wearing an old t-sfhirt that doesn’t have any shape to it? You may not realize it but you are subconsciously more confident when you’re in a shirt that shows off your body, which explains why you instantly become more attractive to women. 


According to Jay Borge in his article “Top clothes that will boost your confidence” he talks about the top pieces of clothing that boost your confidence in the most settle ways.

1. Big Jackets: Just like women like to wear those little black dresses to make themsleves appear slimmer, guys you try to make yourselves appear bigger with the large jackets. When the clothes are a little larger it makes you feel as if your presence is bigger therefore boosting your confidence.

2. Flattering Clothes: Who doesn’t like to look good in what they’re wearing? So why would you not wear clothing that you felt great inThe next time you’re picking out an outfit pick one out that flatters the feature you admire the most about yourself; it could be your arms, legs, or even the color of your eyes, as long as you feel confident in what you’re wearing, that’s all that matters. 

Arms\Muscles: Try putting on a a fitted shirt or a tank top. Both of these will accent the physique

Legs: Wear shorts or fitted jeans

Eyes (etc.): If you want to flatter a feature like your eye color you will want to focus more on the colors of your clothing. For example: if you have brown eyes the most flattering colors would be brown, green, and pink

3. Heels: No, I’m definitely not talking about those 7″ stilettos that us women torture ourselves with, but you most certainly can wear a shoe with a very little heel (like boots). When you’re looking down at someone as opposed to them looking down on you it gives you more confidence in the way you feel about yourself.

4. Underwear: Just because you’re the only one that knows what’s underneath doesn’t mean your effort should stop at the surface. Even though it’s for you, it gives you a sense of confidence just knowing you look great from the underneath out.



Comfortable, Glamorous, Confident, Oh My!

Do you have a love\hate relationship with the holiday season? Every time it rolls around you get excited about all the hustle and bustle, the family, the spirit, the parties and decorations, but what you hate more than anything is the stress. I completely get it; the holiday season gets me too, especially the holiday parties. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good party but during the holidays you feel like you have to “look” good (glamorous) to get in the spirit. I’m not one to complain about getting dressed up (I love it) but it’s stressful and I think every female will vouch for me when I say…it’s incredibly time consuming.


Ladies, if anyone understands how unbelievably annoying it is to dress up for all those holiday parties it’s me, but that doesn’t mean it has to be unbearable or keep you from going out all together. You can still be comfortable, glamorous, and confident! Just because you want to look nice for the holiday party doesn’t mean you have to wear a short and skimpy little dress with 6″ heels. If it’s one thing you should be focused on this season, it’s yourself. Before you walk out the door in your outfit ask yourself, “how do I feel in this?” “Will I be comfortable?” If the answer is no then take the outfit off and try again. Don’t let your self-consciousness get the best of you because you think your skirt is too short or those heels are way too uncomfortable.

Here are a few holiday tips of my own (third bullet) as well as some from an article by Dr. Pam Spurr. Keep these in mind when you’re getting ready for the party. All you have to do is be confident in yourself and you’ll be the life of the party….guaranteed!

  • Instead of wearing a skirt or dress that’s too short or too tight try a cute romper or a form fitting sweater dress (it’s too cold outside for the skimpy dress anyways).
  • Instead of wearing heels put on a pair of sparkly flats; they go with everything and you can even use them for New Years too! (2 in 1).
  • To top it all off, nothing puts you in the holiday spirit like actually dressing the part so before you walk out the door put on a cute little santa hat and let the festivities begin!


~To keep yourself in the holiday spirit visit this site to “Find your Holiday Confidence.”~



Ugly Confidence

CHRISTMAS IS FINALLY HERE haha well not really (we still have to get through Thanksgiving) but it’s super close and you know what that means…It’s that time of year to break out those ugly sweaters.

We have all been invited to at least one ugly sweater party so therefore we all have at least one ugly sweater (I don’t care how you got it whether your girlfriend bought it for you, your grandma knitted it, or you just needed one so you didn’t stick out like a sore thumb at that party) but I bet most of us are going to find a reason to put on that ugly sweater once again, but this year is going to be different! You will be wearing that sweater with confidence instead of shame! How is that even possible? I know you’re wondering, because that sweater is just so damn ugly. The secret is not how you look, but how you carry that look.

So maybe wearing an ugly christmas sweater doesn’t give you confidence but that doesn’t mean you can’t be confident while wearing it! Reading through my previous posts, I have talked about how clothing can affect a person’s self confidence and how to gain that confidence through clothing and acceptance of your body image.

Just because your sweater is tacky doesn’t mean your presence has to be too! In week 4 (The Three Keys to Confidence) and week 9 (Confidence & Sexy: Two Peas in a Pod) I discussed the importance of being confident in yourself and how to get there.



  • Accept your body
  • Love your body
  • Wear clothing that represents “you”


Once you have done these three things you’re ready to hit the ugly sweater party this year with confidence! 


If you’re still having trouble being confident enough in your ugly sweater to have fun (which you shouldn’t. Everyone else is wearing a sweater that’s just as ugly, so embrace it and have fun) but nonetheless here are a few “pointers” 😉 from the “Guy Code.

  1. Wear it with pride: Just about everybody else will be wearing an ugly sweater (if not uglier than yours). They’re there to have fun not judge, so you should do the same!
  2. Go a little offensive (but not too far): Try putting on a sweater that’s a little controversial. It’ll strike up conversation.
  3. Go in pairs: Pair does not necessarily mean couple. You could dress up with a boy\girlfriend but you could also get a group of friends together and get similar ugly sweaters. It’ll put your mind at ease knowing a few other people have on a tacky sweater; you won’t be the only one.
  4. Go all out: You’re already wearing the ugliest sweater you possibly could have put on, so why not get one that lights up, or sings? It’s the one time of the year it’s acceptable, so why not? haha
  5. Go pant-less: Definitely a sure way to make sure nobody notices what you’re wearing up top 😉



The only thing that should be tacky this Christmas is your sweater 🙂


Confidence & Sexy: Two peas in a pod

You could be the most beautiful woman on the planet but if you lack self-confidence that beauty won’t get you very far. Confidence isn’t something that most people think about “putting on” or as something that can be worn, but it most certainly is!

When you go out for the night you want to feel great in whatever outfit you walk out the door in, am I right? The only way to ensure that is to bring your confidence along too (It should ALWAYS be with you). If you’re not confident in the outfit you’re wearing then don’t wear it. You have to feel comfortable with yourself before you can have a good time. Just think back to the last time you forced yourself to wear an outfit that wasn’t you for the night, did you have a good time or were you too worried about your image the entire night to have any fun?

Gaining confidence in yourself isn’t and shouldn’t be hard. It just takes some practice and a little faith. Daily News featured an article that discusses how self-confidence can be reached. Brett Hoebel explains the three “strengths” you need in order to radiate your confidence from head to toe.

“Strength to be confident”

If you don’t believe in yourself first, neither will anyone else. Once you find the strength to love you for who you are, not how others want you to be you’ll be much much more confident, happy, and sexy. You’re one step closer to wearing your confidence.

“Strength to define your beauty”

You may have heard other people define beauty as being tall, skinny, blonde, etc. but really when it comes down to it “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” If you think you are beautiful, that’s when others will start to think so too. Try sitting down and defining the word “beauty” (in your own words) and then look at yourself in the mirror. You’ll probably be surprised to see that you’re beautiful based on your own definition. You’re two steps closer to wearing your confidence.

“Strength to accept your body”

The body you have is the one you were born with. Sure we can “tweak” it by eating right, and working out but that’s not the only way we can tweak our bodies. Part of treating it right is accepting it too. You won’t be able to pull off “sexy” until you learn to accept your body. The only opinion about your body that should matter is your own. Congratulations! You’re wearing your confidence.


Don’t forget to put on your confidence the next time you walk out that door!


Classy Cleavage

“If you’ve got it flaunt it”

We’ve all heard that at least once, and why shouldn’t we? We should be embracing the features we love about ourselves, not obsessing over the ones we hate. The trick is to flaunt it with class not trash. Getting attention for all the right reasons gives you more confidence than getting attention for all the wrong reasons. You want confidence that lasts, not just for the moment.

One of our biggest mistakes when we’re trying to look sexy is showing so much that we don’t leave anything for the imagination.

You can turn heads for all the right reasons, you just have to learn how first. The most popular features a woman reveals when she wants to look and feel sexy are her cleavage and her legs. In her article, Tanya sharma discusses how you can reveal these features in a sexy yet classy way.

If you follow a few of her tips and guidelines the next time you dress for the club I bet you’ll be pleasantly surprised by how much attention you actually get.

The first rule of thumb when wearing revealing clothing is to keep everything balanced. Your top should balance out the bottom and vice versa; when you wear short-shorts pair them up with a long sleeved blouse, or when you put on a low cut top wear a pair of jeans that flatter your curves.


There is no need to go crazy and wear a dress that cuts the cleavage all the way down to your hips. Don’t forget “less is more.” You may not turn as many heads wearing a blouse or dress that accents your cleavage in a settle way as you would wearing the dress with the plummeting neckline, but I can guarantee you those heads that do turn will be turning for the right reason.

Again, going back to the “balancing act” if you do decide to wear a dress with a low cut neckline make sure to balance it out with the length of the dress. The dress should flow down to at least the knees if not a little bit below. A maxi dress is a young and modern way to keep the balance.


short skirts and shorts are appropriate in order to accentuate your legs. Try wearing a jean skirt for the most flattering look. The denim material doesn’t hug you too tight and therefore doesn’t show off any unwanted flaws.

Tops & Dresses:

A sheer or see through top or dress is the perfect piece of clothing for your sexy night but don’t forget the class. Try pairing the blouse with a cute camisole underneath, and the sheer dress would look good over some fitted leggings and a solid top or bandeau.

 This a perfect example of sexy but classy. The dress flows with her curves giving her a sexy image, and the sheer fabric in the cleavage area is revealing but still leaves a lot to the imagination, which is intriguing.

Sweaty vs. Sexy

How many people think that going to the gym in an oversized t-shirt and baggy sweats is attractive? You probably don’t…but you do it anyways.

If we try and dress to impress when we are out and about socializing why would we dress any differently when we are headed to the gym? It’s a different type of dress, but that doesn’t mean we still can’t look good. There are a ton of reasons why we should dress nice when we workout (besides trying to impress those cute boys in the weight room ;))

Dress first for yourself! If you don’t feel confident, everyone will be able to tell, so wear something comfortable but that doesn’t mean you can’t be stylish too.

I’m not telling you to go put on make-up and wear the outfit you put on for that date you had last week, but I am saying to choose clothing that makes you feel fit the next time you make your way to the gym.

Certain classes like Pilates, yoga, and etc. require tight fitted clothing because of the flexibility needed in order to do the poses. If you wore baggy shirts and pants to those classes your baggy clothes would get in your way and hold you back. Do you really want that if you’re trying to get into shape? I didn’t think so!


One of the most important reasons to dress in decent work out clothes when you hit the gym (at least in my opinion) is the fact that it motivates you to actually work out. How many of you feel like going to the gym more when you’re out and about and being productive as opposed to when you’re laying on your couch in sweatpants. I personally am so much more efficient at the gym when I feel good in my work out clothes.

My typical gym outfit consists of a pair of yoga pants (I own like 10 pairs) and a cute work out top. Most of my work out tops are either loosely fitted or racerback and they’re typically bright colors (I’m talking neon). I love going to the gym, and I feel good when I’m there, but that has a lot to do with my outfit choices. When you feel good in your clothes it’s extremely motivating to stay on that bike or treadmill a few minutes longer, or to lift a few more weights than you usually would. Who needs a personal trainer when your clothes are already giving you that extra push?

How do work out clothes boost confidence though?

Work out clothes boost just as much confidence as regular clothes. They may even do double the work! For one, in my previous post, Is Your Mind Making You Fat? I talked about how fitted clothing can trick your mind into thinking that you’re fit and this still holds true at the gym. when you wear yoga pants and a loose fitted shirt your mind thinks your fit, and therefore that motivates you (or at least myself) to work even harder at the gym because you notice progress! Not only does the clothing motivate you, but since you’re motivated and you actually want to go that little extra mile when you’re at the gym that means you’re actually making progress and getting in shape and that not only makes you physically healthy but it makes you mentally healthy as well, and both of these factors affect confidence levels as well!

Here are some outfits that you can replace your usual gym outfits with:

If you typically wear a baggy oversized shirt or sweatshirt and sweatpants then try wearing a loose fitted shirt and some athletic shorts similar to the images below:



If you typically wear a t-shirt and loose fitted sweats then try wearing a racerback shirt and a pair of yoga pants or yoga capris similar to the images below:


If you’re still having trouble figuring out what type of gym outfit to wear try visiting this site to look at a few examples they give as well.

You can also visit these sites to find some stylish and affordable workout clothes 😀

~Dick’s Sporting Goods

~ Target (Women)

~ Target (Men)


~Old Navy

~JCPenney (Women)

~JCPenney (Men)

If you go to this sight here you will be able to find a variety of other types of stores to get athletic wear (especially for yoga wear!)

You don’t have to look sexy to feel sexy 😉


Fitting into your body the “right” way

“If you celebrate your differentness the world will too…” ~Victoria Moran~

Stop striving to be like the girl next door, your “perfect” best friend, or the model on the cover of your favorite magazine! You’re different and so are they. Not one person on this earth was born exactly the same and that is what makes us all so perfectly unique. The world would be so boring if we all looked the same; it would be like looking into a mirror all day.

One  characteristic that makes us so different from others is our body shape. There are four main body types that women fall into but that does not necessarily mean we all fall into one of those categories. Referring back to my post from last week It’s the imperfections that make us beautiful you will find a chart on the main body types. Since we all do not have the same type of body, we all should not wear the same type of clothes either. There is clothing tailored to flatter every shape.



Pear (Triangle): Your upper body and torso are smaller than your hips. You will typically have a rounder butt and fuller hips.




Inverted Triangle (Wedge): Your upper body is larger than your hips. Your bust is fuller than your hips are in width and you tend to have smaller legs.



Hourglass: Your bust and hips are the same width but you have a defined waist. Typically the waist measurement will be between 8″ and 12″




Rectangle (Ruler): Your upper and lower body are about the same width.





Apple (Circle): A round appearance, no waist definition






Here are a few sites that you can visit for more information on the different body types:

The Chic Fashionista

Dressing for your Body Shape

Find Fashion that Flatters


If you would like to figure out what body type you are this link will help you find out!

The second link above also provides a body type quiz!


Once you have figured out what your body type is you can then begin to dress appropriately. As I stated earlier each body type has different styles of clothing that are flattering; just because your neighbor is an hourglass shape and can fit into a shirt with a cinched waist does not mean you should be able to as well. You might be an inverted triangle and a v-neck shirt would be the most flattering look for you.


Dressing for your body type is comfortable because your clothes “fit” you the way they are supposed to, and when you feel comfortable in your clothes you feel good in them and that makes you confident!


The Pear (Triangle): For tops you’re all about layers upon layers. lightweight cardigans and quarter sleeves look great on you. You want to fill out the upper body a little to create a balanced look between the upper and lower body.

An  A-line cut with dresses and skirts flatters your curves, and boot-cut pants especially with heels creates length in your legs.


The Inverted Triangle (Wedge): In order to lessen the upper body you should gear more towards cowl-necks and V-neck tops.

For dresses you can pull off what many people can not, a drop waist dress! So go for it 😉 In order to match the upper body in fullness you want to wear wide legged pants.


The Apple (Circle): For tops you want to wear jackets and shirts that have angles and create structure for your shape. Cowl necks and tailored blazers are your best bet.

For pants a straight legged jean works best, and wearing a heel looks slimming. Dresses that bunch at the waist create an hourglass look.


The Hourglass: For tops please avoid the layers! A scoop neck shirt looks very flattering. Wear blouses that cinch in at the waist. Your best accessory is a waist belt. Jackets that come in at the waist and flow out are your best fit.

Pencil skirts are your best friend! Skinny jeans that flow with the natural curves of your body and are fitted (but not too fitted) are very flattering on you.


The Rectangle (Ruler): You already have a very athletic body so try and avoid the boxy tops. Ruffles on the shirt, one-shouldered shirts, and halter tops give a feminine look for your body shape.

To enhance your curves wear pants that are high-waisted or bootlegged. Due to the angles they create on your silouhette wrap dresses are great for you.


~Refer to the second link Dressing for your Body Shape for more details about what type of clothing you should shop for~

~You can also refer to my other blog where I have posted outfits that I found flattering on others and the appropriate body type for that outfit is labeled.


“The dress must follow the body of a woman, not the body following the shape of a dress” ~Hubert de Givenchy~

It’s the imperfections that make us beautiful

The Today show did a survey done in 1984 and 16,000 women were asked to participate in a body image survey 75% stated they were too fat and over 60% stated  they were dissatisfied with their stomach, hips and\or thighs.

Unfortunately this probably has not changed one bit. Women everywhere are so much less confident with themselves than they should be. We need to stop comparing ourselves to the models on magazine covers and the runways because not everyone is built the same way; that’s what makes us beautiful! Who wants to look just like everyone else? I most certainly don’t! I believe that everyone is beautiful and it’s those imperfections we have that make us beautiful, because if we were just like everyone else we would be pretty boring.

Like I said before, we are built differently and just because one girl can fit into an outfit with an hourglass fit does not mean that you should be able to too. You may have a different body type than she does.


This chart is a visual on the different body types.

~Next week I’ll talk about these body types and what types of outfits you can feel the most confident in~

An Essential to Life

If you think about it confidence is an essential to life, not a want that we long for. It’s the one thing that can take us as far as we want or keep us from attaining what we strive for. Confidence seems to come easy for some people but nobody is born with it; It’s developed, and one way to help develop your confidence is your wardrobe. The majority of our life success has begun with how we looked. Think about it….that job you got a few months ago, well you were judged by your employer before you even said a word just based on how you dressed, and how do you think most people become couples? It’s that initial attraction to one another. Am I wrong?

There are numerous factors that can help a person develop self confidence, but one that I’m going to talk about includes starting a fashion statement.

Some of you may skim right over this part because you think you are too shy to start a trend, but PLEASE READ this part. You do not have to be a type A (extraverted) personality to make a fashion statement. I am not even close to being that personality type that can talk anyone and everyone and even I’ve started a trend. If I can do it, so can you! Starting a fashion statement does not have to be a nation wide trend, it can simply be within your neighborhood, or even your school, either way will have the exact same affect. Walking down the hallways at school and noticing that a few girls (or boys) are wearing an outfit similar to the one you wore last week is a HUGE compliment and a boost of confidence. It’s extremely flattering when people like your style and want to look just as good as you did when you wore that outfit; it’s a compliment without even having to verbally express it.

Here are six tips on how to start your own fashion statement as told by wikihow:

1) Be sure that your fashion fad is original, simple, and affordable

2) Ask questions like “Will people wear this?” “Will it fade quickly?” “Is it affordable?” “Do I feel good in it?”

3) Try mix and matching different style types (ex: sporty and prep)

4) Display and express it (with confidence)

5) Don’t announce that you are going to start a trend. Let people notice it on their own.

6) Don’t coordinate with others to all do the same style at once.

~For more information on how to start your own trend click on the link above~

If you are looking to start a trend that will spread a little larger than your local neighborhood or school then here are four tips according to ehow on how to do that:

1) Start with an article of clothing that you’re in love with and work it into an outfit you put together

2) Introduce the outfit to your friends and family at first and even wear it around your school to see if anyone notices it.

3) Try to make your trend known. Write to your favorite fashion magazine with some pictures of the trend and see what they think.

4) Once you have gotten it into a magazine and people know about it, try to get a celebrity to start wearing it around and soon you should see others wearing your trend everywhere you turn 🙂

~For a more detailed description on how to start your trend on a larger scale click on the link above~


This video also talks about how taking fashion risks can boost your self confidence. Starting a fashion statement may be one of the biggest fashion risks you can take!


Stop being shy and show people your true beauty