Comfortable, Glamorous, Confident, Oh My!

Do you have a love\hate relationship with the holiday season? Every time it rolls around you get excited about all the hustle and bustle, the family, the spirit, the parties and decorations, but what you hate more than anything is the stress. I completely get it; the holiday season gets me too, especially the holiday parties. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good party but during the holidays you feel like you have to “look” good (glamorous) to get in the spirit. I’m not one to complain about getting dressed up (I love it) but it’s stressful and I think every female will vouch for me when I say…it’s incredibly time consuming.


Ladies, if anyone understands how unbelievably annoying it is to dress up for all those holiday parties it’s me, but that doesn’t mean it has to be unbearable or keep you from going out all together. You can still be comfortable, glamorous, and confident! Just because you want to look nice for the holiday party doesn’t mean you have to wear a short and skimpy little dress with 6″ heels. If it’s one thing you should be focused on this season, it’s yourself. Before you walk out the door in your outfit ask yourself, “how do I feel in this?” “Will I be comfortable?” If the answer is no then take the outfit off and try again. Don’t let your self-consciousness get the best of you because you think your skirt is too short or those heels are way too uncomfortable.

Here are a few holiday tips of my own (third bullet) as well as some from an article by Dr. Pam Spurr. Keep these in mind when you’re getting ready for the party. All you have to do is be confident in yourself and you’ll be the life of the party….guaranteed!

  • Instead of wearing a skirt or dress that’s too short or too tight try a cute romper or a form fitting sweater dress (it’s too cold outside for the skimpy dress anyways).
  • Instead of wearing heels put on a pair of sparkly flats; they go with everything and you can even use them for New Years too! (2 in 1).
  • To top it all off, nothing puts you in the holiday spirit like actually dressing the part so before you walk out the door put on a cute little santa hat and let the festivities begin!


~To keep yourself in the holiday spirit visit this site to “Find your Holiday Confidence.”~



Ugly Confidence

CHRISTMAS IS FINALLY HERE haha well not really (we still have to get through Thanksgiving) but it’s super close and you know what that means…It’s that time of year to break out those ugly sweaters.

We have all been invited to at least one ugly sweater party so therefore we all have at least one ugly sweater (I don’t care how you got it whether your girlfriend bought it for you, your grandma knitted it, or you just needed one so you didn’t stick out like a sore thumb at that party) but I bet most of us are going to find a reason to put on that ugly sweater once again, but this year is going to be different! You will be wearing that sweater with confidence instead of shame! How is that even possible? I know you’re wondering, because that sweater is just so damn ugly. The secret is not how you look, but how you carry that look.

So maybe wearing an ugly christmas sweater doesn’t give you confidence but that doesn’t mean you can’t be confident while wearing it! Reading through my previous posts, I have talked about how clothing can affect a person’s self confidence and how to gain that confidence through clothing and acceptance of your body image.

Just because your sweater is tacky doesn’t mean your presence has to be too! In week 4 (The Three Keys to Confidence) and week 9 (Confidence & Sexy: Two Peas in a Pod) I discussed the importance of being confident in yourself and how to get there.



  • Accept your body
  • Love your body
  • Wear clothing that represents “you”


Once you have done these three things you’re ready to hit the ugly sweater party this year with confidence! 


If you’re still having trouble being confident enough in your ugly sweater to have fun (which you shouldn’t. Everyone else is wearing a sweater that’s just as ugly, so embrace it and have fun) but nonetheless here are a few “pointers” 😉 from the “Guy Code.

  1. Wear it with pride: Just about everybody else will be wearing an ugly sweater (if not uglier than yours). They’re there to have fun not judge, so you should do the same!
  2. Go a little offensive (but not too far): Try putting on a sweater that’s a little controversial. It’ll strike up conversation.
  3. Go in pairs: Pair does not necessarily mean couple. You could dress up with a boy\girlfriend but you could also get a group of friends together and get similar ugly sweaters. It’ll put your mind at ease knowing a few other people have on a tacky sweater; you won’t be the only one.
  4. Go all out: You’re already wearing the ugliest sweater you possibly could have put on, so why not get one that lights up, or sings? It’s the one time of the year it’s acceptable, so why not? haha
  5. Go pant-less: Definitely a sure way to make sure nobody notices what you’re wearing up top 😉



The only thing that should be tacky this Christmas is your sweater 🙂